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Marriage and Family Talk for 6th-7th Graders
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The following talk is aimed at being sensitive to the younger age of these children while beginning to transition them through the bodily changes that will happen during pubert. The focus is not on anatomical details, but on the important spiritual and emotional aspects of God's plan for marriage, family and our bodies.
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Marriage and Family Talk:
For Sixth and Seventh Graders
By John Dwiggins ©
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WHAT IS THE MEANING OF SEX?
Ephesians 5:22-33
Marriage is the ultimate human commitment for both husband and wife. The act of sex is the mysterious physical-spiritual union that fulfills and establishes the marriage relationship even somehow signifying the relationship between Christ and the church.
God has designed marriage and sex within marriage as sacred, holy acts, for our good: THEY MUST BE CONSIDERED WITH THE HIGHEST SERIOUSNES!!!
Because Satan is evil, after Adam sinned, he desired to ruin marriage and sex, by degrading both and removing the specialness of them. So God established rules about marriage and sex to PROTECT us from Satan’s evil and PROVIDE us with the best possible enjoyment and fulfillment from marriage and sex and family that is possible in this world.
THE BEAUTY OF GOD’S RULES:
RULE 1: NO ADULTERY (sex outside of marriage) Exodus 20:14, or FORNICATION 1 Corinthians 10:8. This includes not looking on other women lustfully and desiring them in your heart Matthew 5:27-28; therefore any form of pornography or looking evilly on a woman or man is not allowed.
RULE 1 PROTECTS YOU FROM:
· Sexually transmitted diseases, which could cause you great physical agony for life, make it impossible for you to have children or even take your life;
· Babies without parents;
· From selfish physical abuse of one another just for pleasure;
· From multiple sex partners in you life, which brings loss of dignity (you become as a loaf of bread! (Proverbs 6:26) AND LOSE YOUR PRECIOUS LIFE) and DEFILES or dirties the marriage bed with bad memories.
· From sinning against your own body (1 Corinthians 6:13-20)
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RULE 1 PROVIDES YOU WITH:
· The BEST WIFE! When you don’t have sex, you can really get to know each other and determine if it is God’s will for you to be married.
· The best sex life after marriage, because you can have total freedom and joy. There are no past relationships or sins or disease to haunt you; you are sharing a most special thing with only ONE person. Mom and Dad have discovered, that waiting until marriage for sex, has made it so much better after marriage.
RULE 2: MARRY ONLY A CHRISTIAN 1 Corinthians 6:14-18. We are
God’s temple and need to maintain the close Father-son or Father-daughter relationship with Him.
RULE 2 PROTECTS you from a non-Christian man or woman who would be continually leading you into sin, separation from God and His life-giving power.
RULE 2 PROVIDES you with a much happier life, as being separated from God and living in sin is very disastrous!
PUBERTY: in the next year your body will begin preparing itself for becoming a HUSBAND and FATHER or WIFE and MOTHER.
There will be bodily changes for you:
BOYS: your penis will change; you will have pubic, facial and arm pit hair. You will have seminal fluid and sperm production begin
SIDE EFFECTS: Possible moodiness/emotional swings; wet dreams-your seminal fluid will build up and then automatically come out by itself, during the night. Your interest in girls will probably increase dramatically. You will become capable of fathering a baby.
GIRLS: your breast will begin to grow and you will begin your period where the part of your uterus where a baby can grow will monthly discharge and be replenished. You will have pubic, facial and arm pit hair. You will begin ovulating and your hormones will start producing in larger quantities.
SIDE EFFECTS: Possible moodiness/emotional swings; you will be capable of becoming pregnant if you have sex.
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GOD’S STRATEGY VERSES FOR HANDLING PUBERTY AND OBEYING HIS RULES FOR SEX AND MARRIAGE
Romans 12:1 Sacrifice yourself to God
Romans 12:2 Don’t be conformed to the worlds standards but renew you mind with God’s Word
Philippians 4:13 Jesus will give you the strength to do it.
Psalm 119:9-11 Memorize God’s rules
Proverbs 25:28: REMEMBER control your temper: without self-control you are defenseless
FAMILY STRATEGY OR GAME PLAN FOR FOLLOWING GOD’S RULES:
(NOTE: a game plan is only effective if it is in place BEFORE the game starts)
1. No dating or going steady with a girl that is not COMMITTED to Christ; mere church attendance is not enough.
2. No physical contact with a girl that would cause you to sin or desire to sin or have sex before marriage. GENERAL CONTACT RULES: maximum is handholding, arm on shoulder; when in high school a one-breath kiss.
3. Share above rules with a potential date BEFORE the date.
4. No single dates before age 16.
5. No use of our cars if you don’t follow dating rules listed above and more specific rules developed later.
6. While you are living at home, you must have an openness to share your girlfriends (or boyfriends) with the family and also share your dating /puberty questions and feelings with Dad and Mom.
7. No college funds or allowances if dating rules are not followed. If out of high school and dating rules are not followed, you may have to leave home.
8. Read portions of Josh McDowell’s book “Why Wait” when Dad and Mom think it’s appropriate.
9. If you want to, Dad and Mom will give you a beautiful promise ring to remind you of your commitment to obey God in this area of your life.
10. When you become moody or angry, count to ten before talking.
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11. Know that Dad and Mom love you very much and want the best for you so be willing to come to us, no matter what. We will be willing help you live a godly life, and start afresh, if you confess and repent of any sins you may have committed in the area of sexuality.
All rights reserved; for personal use only. No copying of this material unless written permission is obtained from John Dwiggins. This material can be ordered for other people through the 4Wisdom.org web site.
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Marriage and Family Talks with Your Children
By John H. Dwiggins
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